Being Alone Without Being Lonely

There is a great difference between being lonely and being alone. Many people are alone and lead happy lives. It may behoove us to study some of their traits, because many of us are likely to be alone at some point in our lives. Points to consider:

• Our culture has a high divorce rate.
• Statistics show that wives outlive husbands.
• Our society advocates self-sufficiency and independence.

Contrary to many beliefs, the elderly are not the most lonely among us. It is young people who are most lonely, and herein may lie some of the differences between being lonely and being alone.

Many elderly people have developed traits or habits that help them be comfortable with themselves alone. They have found ways to keep busy mentally. Many rely on good memories of a deceased spouse for comfort while relishing the peace and quiet of a household void of too much activity. They have reached the point where their status quo is calmness.

The young, however, are subject to a wide range of moods. They may be up one morning and down that evening or up and down several times in a given day. They are often bored and restless to the point of being unhappy for no clear reason. When they are not sought after and included in all activities of their peers, their self-esteem takes a hit.When they are lonely, they blame themselves and resort to activities that exclude social contact or productivity, such as watching too much television.

Being alone can have its advantages. The creative person craves time alone. Any professional who takes a sabbatical and spends some time alone returns refreshed mentally and spiritually.

To reap the rewards of solitude, a person who feels lonely can tune out thoughts of self and seek out activities. They can:

• write letters
• read
• paint
• sew
• care for a pet
• enroll in a correspondence course

A person who is feeling lonely should avoid situations such as:
• drinking alcohol alone
• using other escapes such as non-prescribed medications
• watching so much television that it becomes a substitute for socializing

It may sometimes be good to be alone, but it is rarely good to be lonely.


Suffering o Other People Makes You Stronger......

When u think your life is full of pain and you read or watch other people suffering more than you, it makes you stronger.... beleive me
There is a say in french " le malheur des uns fait le bonheur des autres" sad but true.
So read this, you will  be shocked and even horrified by this man.

Wesson Family Massacre: Children Tell Story of Murder and Sexual Abuse

Los Angeles - It is the worst mass murder case ever seen in Fresno, an agricultural town in the heart of California's Central Valley.
On March 12, 2004, officers were summoned to Marcus Wesson's rundown home after his two nieces, who had escaped from the home, went back to try to get their children.
Wesson talked with officers at the front door, then went into the back bedroom and shut the door.
After an 80 minute police standoff, a blood stained Wesson emerged and turned himself in.
In the bedroom police found a bloody pile of corpses, each shot through the eye. Officers pulled out nine bodies, ranging in age from 1 to 25.
The victims were all Wesson's children, but police later found out something even more disturbing. Wesson had sired the murdered kids by repeatedly raping his daughters and nieces.
No fingerprints or gunshot residue indicated who fired the murder weapon. But Wesson's surviving children would later testify that he wielded absolute control over his large clan. He preached to the family daily, weaving a dogma of polygamy and incest from his interpretations of the Bible and Seventh Day Adventist beliefs.
Last month, for the first time on television, the wife and surviving children of Marcus Wesson spoke out about the years of horrific physical, mental and sexual abuse they endured at the hands of their domineering patriarch and mastermind behind the murders of nine of his own children.
"I wished I could disappear, I didn't want to exist," said daughter, Gypsy.
In a Sept. 24, 2009 episode that focused largely on the Jaycee Dugard case, the Wesson family told Dr. Phil that they are still on the long road to recovery and offered Jaycee insights on how she can begin the healing process.
Wesson's daughter, Kiani, admitted that for the first two years following her father's conviction she could barely eat or sleep, "but it does get better...counseling and talking to friends and loved ones" helps in the process.
Wesson fathered two children with Kiani, both of whom he later murdered.
On June 29, 2005, a jury decided that Wesson should get the death penalty for the murders of his nine children.
How sad can it be......


Happy newYear 2010

Few Quotes To Start a Beautiful NewYear 2010

1.When the clock strikes twelve on December 31st, people all over the world cheer and wish each other a very Happy New Year. For some, this event is no more than a change of a calendar. For others, the New Year symbolizes the beginning of a better tomorrow. So, if you look forward to a good year ahead, spread happiness with these wonderful New Year wishes.

2.And I said to the man who stood at the gate of the year: Give me a light that I may tread safely into the unknown. And he replied: Go out into the darkness and put your hand into the hand of God. That shall be to you better than light, and safer than a known way.

3.What can be said in New Year rhymes,
That's not been said a thousand times?
The new years come, the old years go,
We know we dream, we dream we know.
We rise up laughing with the light,
We lie down weeping with the night.
We hug the world until it stings,
We curse it then and sigh for wings.
We live, we love, we woo, we wed,
We wreathe our prides, we sheet our dead.
We laugh, we weep, we hope, we fear,
And that's the burden of a year.

Happy NewYear Everyone...... With Love